America: The Un-Kid Friendly Society
My thoughts on how America marginalizes children
and treats them like second-class citizens.
My daughter and husband at
a gourmet Japanese restaurant in
Japan.My husband and I were
going out to a fine restaurant for brunch on "Mother's Day". I figured it was
Mother's day and that on this one day throughout the year my daughter would be
accepted and not condemned at the fine restaurant that we were going to.
We were going to
Mace's
off of Fair Oaks Blvd. in Sacramento, CA. The place is posh, but not so posh in
that you could see other children in their mother's retinue that day. Here is
what happened...After we first set
down to eat our meal another table was seated next to us (of middle-aged to
elderly people). I smiled at them and they noticed my daughter's high chair. My
daughter was not there at the time since her Dad was walking her around the
restaurant. But that high chair was all they needed to see. They immediately
asked for another table away from
horror
"KIDS!". I was extremely saddened and shocked. It was mother's day wasn't it?
And they hadn't even seen my daughter who was actually on her best behavior that
day. This scene was quickly followed
by another table that sat next to us that repeatedly gave us nasty looks the
entire time we were there. I could understand the nasty looks if my daughter was
throwing food or screaming. But she wasn't. She was talking happily (in a normal
tone of voice) and most of her food actually went down her throat and not all
over her high chair. Nothing was thrown, she even sang to me. Trust me, this is
awesome behavior for a
two-year-old!Why is it that not even
on Mother's Day is a child accepted in a nice American restaurant? I certainly
resolved after this adventure to never go to Mace's again and to certainly not
even bother to eat out at a nice restaurant with my daughter again (until say
she was 18 years of age). But why is that? Why is it not acceptable to bring out
your kids in public? This contrasts completely with France or Japan where
children are regularly taken out to fine restaurants and the children are ogled
and awed over during the meal. But no so in the United States. Kids are treated
like lepers here.I have heard the
complaints before:Children are
noisyChildren are a
messChildren destroy my enjoyment of a fine
mealMy response is remember that you
were children too at one time. Would you have appreciated it if everyone treated
you like a second-class citizen? How would you feel if adults treated you with
disdain and told your parents to never take you in public anywhere? How would
you like it if your entire childhood was spent at home and that you never could
go out in public (to restaurants or movies)? Show a little flexibility
please.I certainly understand another
adult being more than upset about an unruly kid throwing a temper tantrum at a
fine restaurant. But if the kid isn't too loud and their food doesn't move past
their high chair/plate. Then why get upset? Can't everyone have a fun time with
children--even in public?
Posted: Tue - January 24, 2006 at 10:31 AM